Have you ever been asked a question by one on your kids that just stumps you? A question that makes you wonder how on earth they even thought to ask such a question. Well my kids do it to me ALL the time. Especially Madisen. She has come up with some real thought provoking Her latest inquiry has left me puzzled.
Jaden was getting in trouble(for what I don't remember but it probably had to do with him not wanting to put his toys away, again.) "Jaden Trent Homec!" I proceeded to scold him, then went about my day. Madisen, being the inquisitive little girl that she is, came to me later that day and asked, "Mom, who is Shea?" I was bewildered. "Shea?" I didn't know anyone by this name. "Why?" asked. "Well, that's my middle name." And then it became clear where she was going with this line of questioning. "Why, is Jaden named after somebody and I'm not?" How do you answer such a question? Why is my 6 year old asking me such questions? How do I explain that the names I had to work with were Mish, Evelyn, Verna and Ana (which isn't that bad but it's been used too many times) And our mom's name, Lee Ann and Iliana were too long next to Madisen. Not to mention the fact that I was lucky to be getting a girl with Trent's gene pool. If I picked my mom's name what if I didn't have another girl so that I could use Tren't mom's name? Never in my wildest
dreams did I think I would ever be asked this question. If I did than Madisen might be Madisen Mish Home.(insert any of the other) I felt bad, and now I regretting giving her the middle name that I did. At the time I figured using a family name was not that important. Well, I was wrong. And now my little girl has to go around with the name Shea. I've doomed her to an awful fate. I explained to her that Tatum didn't have any one's name either. Marie is not a family name. (I didn't tell her that we considered using my name for Tatum's middle name.) I'm very glad that I didn't. She seems to be OK with my answer, "Oh, so Jaden has dad's name because he's the only boy." she said. (Sure, that sounds good.) Good thing I'm not having anymore boys. But now I've been plagued with this guilt. Was I wrong to not name my girls after a family member? Will, Madisen be scared? I'm sure she won't but, she have realized that deep thought needs to be used when making a decision about my kids. Especially where Madisen is concerned.
6 comments:
I doubt Madisen will be scarred for life because she doesn't have a family name. None of our kids have any family names. I got so sick of the 20+ Davids and Karens in my husbands family that I insisted on no family names. That way we avoid insulting anyone who is left out, or thinking we like one side better than the other.
We just tell our kids we picked names that we really liked and that we thought sounded good at the time. For all of them I think we actually have some story or reason behind the name, so we can tell them that, and it makes it special for them. Because you know, they will have a few assignments in school later on where they have to write a paper about thier name.
I think she'll be ok too. Her face is cute in that picture! Names are important I think but we all end up making name mistakes that we would probably change if we could go back. I think what you told her sounded good though!
Madisen should be grateful her middle name isn't Verna. And Mish, what is that? I actually like Evelyn. British.
Oh...poor Madisen! I would never think that this would affect a child. She is a deep little thinker!
Oh I have to tell you that Celia Fae also comments on my friend Rachel's blog from my ward...crazy what a small world! How does everyone know eachother??
Wow, I guess that makes me grateful we named Tanner and Kate's middle names after Shad and I, but what about our next kid?
The pics of your kids having fun together are so cute.
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